An ending and a beginning

I have been struggling with how to write this post for a long time.  And I think I have finally come to the realization that there is no good way to write it.  But the cat is out of the bag, and there is no sense keeping things to myself anymore.

A lot has happened.  It has been a hard year.

T and I have decided, after a long process to end our marriage.  When this year started, this was not the ending I though I wanted.  But it seems to be the only one that works.

I won’t say the reasons aren’t important because they are.  But they are only important to us and I will leave it at that.

And now, here I am.  The paperwork won’t be final for a couple more weeks, but for all intents and purposed I am divorced.  Time to move forward.

The kids will split their time between T and I.  Two weeks here, two weeks there.  This is still a work in progress, and adjustments may be made as we go along.  We will have to see what works.  I hope they forgive us for doing this to them someday.

So, I sit here, in an apartment full of boxes.  It is both exciting and terrifying.  I am not sure what happens next, but I hope a year from now we are all in good places, happy places, with good lives.  And I hope T and I will always be there for each other as friends.

 

 

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8 thoughts on “An ending and a beginning

  1. Kathy, sending you lots of positive thoughts and energy. You are in uncharted waters, but you will all arrive safe and sound. Take care.

  2. I can only imagine how tough it was for you to take this step, and then confront your feelings in this blog. You have written about the situation with a sensitivity to all involved, when it would have been easier to assign blame. Right now your apartment may seem to be full of boxes, but the love and support of your friends and family is there amongst the cardboard. R

  3. Kathy, I am here is you ever need to talk. Just message me. This is a difficult time, but healing is possible and you all will be fine. Remember to take care of yourself, and ask for help when you need it. You have a great support system in place. You are in my thoughts.

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